What Women Want on St. Valentine's Day

Since  the days of Chaucer and the Elizabethans there were verses, trinkets and love tokens exchanged  on this day. 

Hand painted with birds, flowers and hearts, the products of an elegant society and education, these valentines were  made in limited numbers.

A vintage Valentine would be  lst choice for women who love antiques . 

2nd choice -For the adventurous traveling woman, a visit to Terni, (100 kms. from Rome) where St. Valentine was bishop and died a martyr in 273. Hundreds of couples visit the tomb of the patron saint of lovers at the Basilica just outside town on this day.  Stop to see the romantic Marmore waterfalls nearby, created by the Romans in the 2nd century B.C. 

On the way to Terni, stop for a romantic  weekend at the Castello di Proceno perched on a hilltop near the border between Lazio and Tuscany.   

3rd choice - If you are in Rome, make a visit to view the sensuous  sculptures of Canova and Bernini  at the Borghese Gallery. 

Drop in the gallery's restaurant afterwards for  tea and, to remember the day, purchase a souvenir from the well stocked bookshop.

Approach to Galleria Borghese, Rome, once home to Paolina Bonaparte-Borghese

Bernini's  sensuous Apollo and  Daphne 

Have the room to yourselves, at lunchtime in February

Roman statue from the Louvre 

  

 Paolina Bonaparte-Borghese as Venus, Canova's masterpiece

4th choice – have some chocolates on hand. Belgian chocolates with fresh cream are the best but  easily spoil. 

Erotic  Etruscan  chocolate can be found hidden behind a discreet red curtain in a central pastry shop in Viterbo.

5th choice-Learn  a love poem to recite  on the day like  this  sonnet by Dante.

Book of  Dante's love sonnets,  1921 

Illustrated  by Dante Gabriele Rossetti

Most  women  would be perfectly  happy  with  one of these  surprises, two or three would be preferable. Let  us know your  ideas for special places  to spend  Valentine's  Day where you live.

                               

Dante to Dianne Hales -love poetry and popular sayings

    Years ago  while I  was a young teacher  at one of Rome’s prestigious  international schools,  I  found myself  teaching   Beginning Italian to a  class of  adolescents.   As newcomers to Italy, they were  learning the language by osmosis and not  just in the classroom.

 Juicy, descriptive  expletives were learned daily on the soccer field while dialogues  pertaining  to  food  and transport  were  next  in order of importance  as these  teenagers  went out to  explore  the Eternal City and interact with   their Italian counterparts, especially those of  the genteel sex.

 But what about   “la bella lingua”  Dianne Hales describes  in her  bestseller ? What about  a bit of culture and history?  

  Italian actor  Roberto Benigni ‘s successful  theatrical  readings  of  La Divina Commedia  are proving  to modern audiences  that  la lingua di  Dante  has  never  gone  out of  fashion.  Hopefully  my former  students  are  still  using   this poem they learned    to impress  the ladies.  

Tanto gentile e tanto onesta pare
la donna mia, quand'ella altrui saluta,
ch'ogne lingua devèn, tremando, muta,
e li occhi no l'ardiscon di guardare.

Ella si va, sentendosi laudare,
benignamente d'umiltà vestuta,
e par che sia una cosa venuta

da cielo in terra a miracol mostrare

Mostrasi sì piacente a chi la mira

che dà per li occhi una dolcezza al core,
che 'ntender no la può chi no la prova;

e par che de la sua labbia si mova
un spirito soave pien d'amore,
che va dicendo a l'anima: Sospira.

 If  you  are not up to memorizing  a quatrain   or two  in the   13th century Tuscan dialect  which later became   Italian,  you can settle  for   a few of these   simple   rhyming   quotations  to impress your friends  with  your knowledge  of  Italian language  and culture.

Here are  a few popular sayings   still  in daily use among  my neighbors here in central Italy.  Perhaps  few city dwellers  remember  or use  these  snippets of country wisdom, but  in  the Viterbo   province also known as Etruria or Tuscia, they are still understood and used…for  country wisdom  is   graphic and  funny  as well as  being  time-less.   

·         Quando Montefogliano mette il cappello, non uscire senza l’ombrello

When  Montefogliano  (local  hill)  puts on  its hat (clouds), don’t go out  without an umbrella.

·         Il gatto nella dispensa quello che non fa, pensa

What  the cat  doesn’t do in  the larder, he thinks about.

·         Il letto è una rosa, chi non dorme si riposa

The bed is  a rose  (comfy),  if you don’t  sleep, you  rest.

·         Latte e vino, veleno fino

Milk  together  with wine  is  a fine poison.

(in other words, no cappuccino  after  a meal with wine)

·         La scolatura alla più bella di natura

The last drop of wine   - to the most beautiful

(in  homage  to  a beautiful dinner companion, while emptying   the wine bottle )

·         Il mondo  è fatto a scale: chi li scende e chi li sale

The world is   like a staircase,  some  go down and some go up.

·         Monache, preti e polli non sono mai satolli

Nuns,  priests  and chickens are  never  full  /satiated.

And, since  it  is August,  

·         Ad agosto, moglia mia non ti conosco